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Because In The End, It’s The FAREWELL ...

 


Farewells amuse me. You must be thinking this is such an absurd statement to make, and you might be right. But, let me tell you why I find it amusing or let me use a more socially accepted term for this topic… hmmm…. How about ‘overwhelm’? Sounds more digestive…Right? So, let me rephrase my first sentence. Farewells overwhelm me and let me tell you why.

What overwhelms me is the fact that all of a sudden there’s nothing else but only positive and good words to utter, that too with great sincerity. In the years of togetherness whether as family or friends or colleagues people have no time to notice those qualities, let alone appreciate them. Always too busy to ponder upon how that person has wronged us and we take no time in criticizing the same. But as soon as it’s time for farewell we suddenly get the wisdom to appreciate the qualities that we never noticed earlier or if noticed, never took efforts to mention it to him on his face. ‘I will miss you’, ‘Keep in touch’, ‘Take care’, etc. we say everything which is supposed to be said during a farewell which makes me wonder are these genuine words, feelings or just the formality. A socially acceptable behaviour which we are bound to display?

From where I look I find it a mere formality which makes us look like a more decent and well-mannered person who very well knows that the definition of ‘keep in touch’ would be nothing but just random thumbs up on Facebook posts, WhatsApp status (sometimes even without reading them) and Instagram likes. Trust me I don’t find you wrong and I understand you mean well because c’mon who has the time to connect as there's so much in life to deal with… job, family, kids, work, corona…

What I don’t understand is why you waited to speak out all those amazing things towards the end. Why did you save it for the time when it might not make much of a difference to the person who has left? Why did you wait to let him know how amazing you find some of his qualities? Why did you wait to tell him to ‘keep in touch’ when he desperately needed someone in his life?

I don’t know if life is long or short but I know that we should not wait till tomorrow to eat the cake that we can have today. Reach out to your loved ones or the people you care about or any person who is not very close to you but you find something amazing about him. Let him know how much you appreciate him. Let’s make his today wonderful when he can still experience it through your words or actions. Let’s not save something amazing and beautiful for the end.

Because in the end, it’s the farewell and it really doesn’t matter.


Author : Khushboo 



Comments

  1. SujataOctober 1, 2020 at 8:23 AM

    Once again totally agree with your statements. But everywhere this is a normal tendency. Having Pre-assumption to about people and taking them for granted. However another truth is ,if you created some bonds those will never be having any boundaries.

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  2. UnknownMay 28, 2021 at 4:53 AM

    This is so true... we never appreciate or say good about a person or deeds done by them while they are with us. But remember them once they are gone 😔

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